Posted by: T.J. Baer | March 5, 2021

Random Queer Storytime: The Suit

Welcome, friends, and thank you for joining me for yet another thrilling edition of Random Queer Storytime, that all-too-frequent occasion when I launch into a random tale of my past that exemplifies both my queer/trans-ness and the fact that I was impressively oblivious as a young person.

In today’s episode, we learn about a dance, an ex, and an ill-fitting suit that finally cracked the closet door open — before I slammed it shut again and shoved myself in deep enough to get a glimpse of Narnia. But that’s another story for another day.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | January 2, 2021

Veganuary: How to Go Vegan and Not Hate It

Greetings, friends, and a very merry Veganuary to you! After the approximately 500 years that comprised 2020, it’s nice to take a clean step into 2021 and entertain a shred of optimism that this year may be better. And while we can’t control what The World at large does, we can at the very least somewhat control the “better” in our own lives. And one way to do that is via what we eat.

When it comes to going vegan, most people exist somewhere on the spectrum between “ugh, never” and “tHiS iS tHe BeSt ThInG eVeR!1!” As with most folks, I myself started on the “ugh, never” side and am now firmly entrenched in the “best thing ever” camp.

But why? Why go vegan? Could we perhaps have the reasons in a handy list format that makes everything clear and easy to read? 

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | November 9, 2020

Transgender Diaries: Entry 1

So, I’d like to start off by saying that it is 100% possible to be trans without spending your childhood despising all that comes with your assigned gender, and not everyone who identifies as transgender has the same “I always knew I was *insert gender here*” narrative. There’s no such thing as being “trans enough,” and you can identify as trans without ticking a single box on the What People Usually Expect Of Trans People list.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | September 26, 2020

Why are people so mad at J.K. Rowling?

Greetings, friends. So, you may have noticed that a lot of people are not so pleased with J.K. Rowling as of late, and if you haven’t delved too deeply into the issue, you may be wondering why emotions are running so high. I thought I would offer some clarity on this matter, as it might be helpful for someone innocently wondering what JK possibly could’ve said to alienate and anger so many people.

So, with that said, let’s get to it.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | September 3, 2020

How To Fail At Vegan Cooking

So, yeah, somehow I ended up writing a cookbook…? Not sure how that happened, but let’s just roll with it.

Want to get started down the road to vegan cooking but don’t want to be too good at it? If your kitchen is way too clean and peaceful and you’d like to incorporate some (potentially) delicious disasters, look no further: This book is for you.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | September 1, 2020

Aces Are Wild (Let’s Talk About Asexuality)

Image: In today's edition of "I was wrong about something"... What exactly is asexuality?

As a long-time member of the queer community, I naturally thought that I had a pretty good handle on the many different and wonderful flavors of queerness. As it turns out, however, there is one particular orientation about which I was grossly misinformed, and maybe you are, too.

Asexuality.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | August 6, 2020

Girls just aren’t interested in that sort of thing

I occasionally find myself wide awake at 3 AM because my body thinks it’s funny to be a jerk sometimes, and as I lie there pretending to be asleep so my cats won’t decide it’s breakfast time, I often end up thinking Deep Thoughts. My thoughts this morning ventured back to childhood and some of my youthful interests, and I got to thinking yet again about the bizarre gender divide we’ve set up around certain activities.

There’s a continuing narrative, even in these “woke” modern days, that those born of the male and female persuasions are naturally and perhaps even biologically interested in different things. Girls like this and boys like that, and that’s just the way it is. And while we’re now beginning to encourage girl-type-children to enjoy pursuits outside of the stereotypical “feminine” realm (while stubbornly insisting the boy-type-children stay firmly in their place), we still have this idea that being born male or female automatically inclines a person toward certain endeavors.

But if we’re not biologically programmed to like certain things, then why do so many girls act this way while boys act that way?

Well, let’s talk about that via my own example.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | July 27, 2020

What is CHOSEN and why should I care about it?

T.J., you say aloud to your screen, I’ve seen you mention this queer fantasy book series, Chosen, approximately 1,000 times per post, but what is it? What is it about? What would the characters look like if someone spent valuable writing time creating avatars of them via an online fantasy avatar creator? I MUST KNOW.

Well, my inquisitive friends, look no further. This is the post for you.


What is Chosen?

Chosen is a book series that asks the question, “What if there was a fantasy story that featured 99% female characters, most of whom are queer people of color, but it was also, like, interesting and good and stuff?” <–(official tagline)

I’m a huge fan of fantasy, but the fantasy I grew up with generally involved straight white dudes (or straight white elves, or straight white dwarves, etc.) getting to do cool stuff while the women were there either as background characters, romantic/lustful objects for the aforementioned dudes, or as the requisite Tough Female Characters who were generally overly sexualized and ended up being defeated (or romanced, or both) by the main character dudes, anyway.

Queer storylines were pretty much non-existent, and while you would often get a token brown character thrown in somewhere along the way, it was always the exception rather than the rule. And you know what’s really awesome about creating a whole new fantasy world of your very own? You can decide what’s normal, so in the fantasy world of Chosen, normal involves a pantheon of queer goddesses, an abundance of non-white folks, and a general acceptance of queer relationships, trans people, non-binary people, etc.

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | July 18, 2020

Updates and a haunted purse

Why, hello there.

For all the die-hard fans out there yearning for news on my doings as of late, I offer you:

AN UPDATE

(Big text means it’s Very Important, you see.)

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Posted by: T.J. Baer | July 3, 2020

Pansy Crewe and the Mystery at the Antiques Roadshow

What I should have been doing this afternoon: Working on my book.

What I did instead: Wrote a Nancy Drew parody story about Antiques Roadshow.

Eh, it happens.

Please enjoy. :P

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