On Gender Identity and How To Be Cool

All right. Gender identity. Let’s rap.

So, there seems to be a lot of confusion out there about sex, gender, gender identity, etc., so I figured I would offer a quick primer for anyone in need of clarification. I’ll start out by saying that there’s a certain fluidity to all of this, and one person’s experience does not encompass all people’s experiences, and a general rule of thumb is just to take people at their word when they say they are this or that.

Example:

“I’m trans.” “Oh, okay, cool.”
“I’m non-binary.” “Oh, okay, cool.”
“My pronouns are “they/them.” “Oh, okay, cool.”
“I am a giraffe.” “I mean, you don’t look much like one, but you would probably know better than me, so okay, cool.”

See? Super easy.

But let’s get a little more in-depth here.

So, at some point in our illustrious history, it was decided that when it came to humans, there were only two boxes that could be checked. One was “male” and one was “female.” Which box you ticked depended solely on what body parts you had, and this was further expanded with the idea that said body parts also determined your interests, personality, mannerisms, and what kind of body wash scents you were allowed to enjoy.

For example:

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In which I break up with Japan

Shortly after writing my recent post about the couture-related challenges of being gender fluid, The Author vs. Clothing, I was inspired to go to the thrift store and pick up some dirt-cheap articles of clothing to suit my less feminine days, which turned out to be a very good decision.

And I also did one more thing.

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I finally cut my hair.

Just to be clear, I didn’t get my hair cut – I cut it my damn self, armed with nothing but dull scissors, my bathroom mirror, and the knowledge that I can’t even cut paper in a straight line. And yeah, it was as much of a disaster as you’re probably imagining.

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The Author vs. Clothing

Just in case you missed it, you are now, for the first time ever, able to read the first few chapters of my upcoming LGBT fantasy book, Chosen, a novel Jon Stewart will someday hail as, “The best book I ever would’ve discussed in front of a live studio audience if I were still doing book-related interviews on The Daily Show, but as I’m leaving the show in August, I guess I’ll never get the chance to shower T.J. Baer with well-deserved kudos and flaily fanboying. Sigh.”

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Sorry, Jon. You had your chance.

Read the first three chapters here.

In other news, my struggles against technology, entropy, and gravity continue, but today I’d like to talk about a different sort of struggle:

Fricking clothing.

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